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Building A Strategy For Our Application For Comprehensive Assistance for Family Caregivers

Last week, I posted on this blog that we (my wife and I) were applying for the VA assistance program cited in the title. Already, we have been scheduled for our first meeting with local authorities as the first step in their process. The meeting is this Friday, June 6th. Some things do move quickly.

Remember that this program is about the caregiver and was put in place to support caregivers so that they can and will continue to provide care and attendance to disabled vets. It is intended to support them in their effort to provide care and comfort to the vet, in this case, me.

We are currently developing a strategy to present our situation in a favorable light to the boards we will encounter. In blogs, for the remainder of the week, I intend to share our process. Starting with today, I will outline what we have defined as a starting point, that of the specifics of my VA disability ratings.

A firm requirement of the caregiver program is that the vet be rated at 70% disability or greater, have served on active duty for at least two years, and their disability be related to their active duty. I qualify on all of these counts as I am currently rated at 100% disability, served 25 years active duty, and all my VA ratings are tied back to Agent Orange exposure while in Combat Zones in Vietnam.

We have sorted my ratings into four baskets: 1 100% rating for nephropathy with hypertension resulting in seven days a week peritoneal dialysis, 2 60% rating for coronary artery disease resulting in shortness of breath given any exertion, and 3 60$ % rating for right leg diabetic neuropathy and 50% in left leg. Everything else is in basket 4.

Over the next three blogs, I will expand on the conditions cited in the previous paragraph and how my spouse, acting as a caregiver, is central to my being able to soldier on.

Looking Ahead

It’s a fantastic Friday for those who work forty hours a week. For those of us on dialysis, it’s just another day. It’s been this way for a couple of weeks for me. Quite uncommon. Next week, the schedule picks up again. I start my quarterly Adequacy Text on Tuesday. On Wednesday, we have Supply Delivery plus at 1000 dialysis labs. On Thursday, it is my privilege to visit our dermatologist for more skin cancer removal. Then we’re back to another fantastic Friday.

With the frequent rains recently in North Texas, weeds are growing profusely. We’re going to have to get out there on hands and knees pretty soon, or things will get out of hand. Luckily, the landscape crew found a window on Wednesday and got the grass mowed. It’s now up to my wife and me to get the rest up to snuff—a never-ending task.

Dialysis continues to roll along without any surprises, pretty much on schedule. My wife continues to provide invaluable emotional and physical support in keeping all the moving parts to my dialysis all going in the right direction. Speaking of my wife, today I filed the VA Form to start the ball rolling to get her properly compensated for her effort (VA 10- 10sc) online. Wish us luck!

A Side Note

Life is serious enough without concentrating on and/or ignoring other aspects of life. I like music, especially blues and, by extension, boogie woogie. It reminds me of my younger days, before dialysis, when I could and did “go all night.”

There was a dude in the Boston area named Preacher Jack. It was a character, but a talented musician. Enjoy one of his renditions below:

On Being Prepared

I don’t recall much being said during my PD training several years ago about handling “emergencies.” I’m referring to power outages and/or the need to disconnect from the cycler quickly in case of a tornado or other such threat.

Sunday night, right on cue, we were awakened to a message on my wife’s phone that a thunderstorm warning had been issued. As per usual, she was concerned and turned our household into one of turmoil, which lasted until well after 5 AM. Along the way, we dropped power, my cycler automatically switched over to its UPS, and our bedroom TV continued to work because of the UPS on it and our T-Mobile internet connection.

Since tornado threats were also involved, my wife placed a set ot clothes and shoes in our pantry off the kitchen, which is enclosed entirely by interior walls and is large enough for the two of us and our Golden, Dickens, to take cover in.

The power came back on after about 45 minutes of being down, and in the interim, I instructed my wife on how to use her phone to obtain real-time weather radar info, and how to obtain local tv news stations on the bedroom TV. So all-in-all it was a good drill in emergency preparedness.

BTW, regarding the Cycler: My plan is to just turn it off if it hasn’t already been shut down due to lack of power, unhook, and worry about draining any remaining fluid out when the dust settles. This could be into a sink, on the ground, into provided drain bags, etc. Worry about this later if the brown stuff hits the fan.

We Remember

While on active duty in the US Navy, I was privileged to be the Officer-In-Charge of a first-of-its-kind land-based test site in Ronkonkomo, NY, out on Long Island. One of my crew at that time was a First Class Petty Officer named Robert Shippe. He went on to accomplish great things in the Navy, the last of which was to give his all. Read on below. Today I remember Shippie and all the Shippies who gave their all.

Senior Chief Petty Officer Robert Lawrence Shippee was a highly regarded member of the United States Navy, serving as a Fire Control Senior Chief aboard the USS Stark (FFG-31). He was born on June 10, 1951, and hailed from Adams Center, New York. Shippee was killed in action on May 17, 1987, when the USS Stark was struck by two Iraqi Exocet missiles in the Persian Gulf during the Iran-Iraq War

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At the time of the attack, Shippee was 35 years old and had served nearly 18 years in the Navy. He was the senior chief of fire control, responsible for overseeing the ship’s computer tracking systems for missiles. Shippee had recently lived in Ponte Vedra, Florida, near his home port of Mayport. He left behind his wife, Carol, and three children: Patricia (12), Timothy (10), and Brian (8)

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Shippee was remembered as a dedicated professional and a devoted family man. His funeral was held at the Seventh Day Baptist Church in Adams Center, with a large community turnout and full military honors, including a 21-gun salute and the presentation of the American flag and Purple Heart to his widow

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His legacy is honored in military tributes and memorials, recognizing his sacrifice and service in the line of duty.

We remember.

Monday was the day

Every Gardner, regardless, relishes their first ripe tomatoes of the season. In this regard, put me at the head of this class. Monday afternoon, at my pleasure, my wife picked our first two ripe tomatoes, which she then incorporated into lunch BLTs. Heaven baby. See pic below. Plants in ground last of Feb 2025, first ripe tomatoes 5/19/25:

Back in Battery

Got over the blahs I had Saturday although my BP is still on the low in with a diastolic in the low 60s.

Friday I made a trip up to our son’s place in the Palo Pinto area and took him out for lunch in Mineral Wells. Over lunch, I learned that Sidney, our GD, is caught up in the recent cutbacks in government funding of research at universities. She is seeking research into her area of interest, the effects of global warming on aspects of sea life. She’s caught between the devil and deep blue sea, so to speak.

Our son continues to work when he has time on their greenhouse. See pic below.

Hot Weather and Blahs Here

It is predicted to be 102°F here in Pecan Plantation today. Our yard person, Sonja, arrived at 0800 to get five hours in. Of course, I was still hooked up to the dialysis cycler, and my wife took care of business.

Speaking of business, we have been looking at potential real estate moves for the last couple of days. Nothing has floated out collective boats. I proposed a triate decision model to my wife at breakfast: 1. Do nothing and stay with what we have, 2. Downsize, which is what we originally were considering and is the most common move, or 3. Move way up the scale as an investment. This alternative we had not discussed or considered before. There is an ultra nice place for sale the next block over, that is a two-story, 4000 sq ft for $800K, and river-front 3000 sq ft for $495k.

To help alleviate the Blahs, here’s a little ditty named “It’s All About That Base.” Enjoy!

Serious Discussions

My wife and I are in serious discussions about after life. That is, life after where we currently reside. Should we downsize to a smaller place with less physical requirements that meets current requirements for housing peritoneal dialysis and all its gear? Should we consider going straight into an assisted living environment? Stay pat? Or what?

To start the ball rolling, we have an appointment on Monday to tour a place here in Pecan Plantation that is 2br 2bath with maintenance and all outdoor upkeep provided. Following is a link to it: https://www.propertypanorama.com/instaview/ntreis/20916255#tour

Just A Walk With Hank

I made the video below and wrote this blog on Mother’s Day. I thought it appropriate to share a video of all the growing things in our yard, since flowers are often the center of giving on this occasion. I gave my wife Linda a tuberous begonia with a card from her sons and our golden Dickens to celebrate the day. Enjoy the video. With the heat projected for the coming week, things will look different shortly.

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